Do you know what you want in life? So many of my clients come to me saying they are frustrated with their career, weight, relationships or life. One of my first questions is usually “what are you wanting to create instead?” and the answer is almost always “I don’t know”. And yet, when push comes to shove, they do know. When we start exploring all the things they really want, the answers are right there, they just couldn’t find them through all the noise. There are so many competing voices telling them they don’t deserve what they want…
It will be too hard
That type of success was made for other people, not you
You just don’t have the body/mind/motivation/education for achieving what you want
You shouldn’t want that, it’s superficial
If you could drop out of all the judging and criticizing, what would you want to create?
I just had a client go through this exercise. She came to me saying she was struggling to find purpose in her career. She wanted to advance but she was tired. She didn’t know what she wanted anymore. We spent some time, sifting through all her thoughts, weeding out the judgement and really getting clear on what she wanted. She identified three criteria of which to evaluate all future roles from and then she verbalized those criteria to her mentors. No more than a month later, a job opportunity came to her that met all three criteria. One that on the surface she wouldn’t have even considered previously, even though it was exactly what she truly wanted. The difference being that she was clear on what she wanted and looking for how things matched vs. how they didn’t. She wasn’t in the location preferred in the job posting and didn’t have the experience she thought they wanted. Yet, she had clarity in who she is and what she brings to the table and she got the offer anyway. She created what she was looking for, simply by knowing what it was and putting it out there. Every single one of you has the same opportunity available to you.
What will you do with it?